#FATANDEATING DAY 5 During this series these are some of the things that have become most important to recognise when talking about fatness and food, for me, 🍔 Food can be eaten for enjoyment, for comfort, for fun, for experience for a multitude of reasons that aren’t just fuel. Fat people often aren’t afforded that…


Could these very photos I’m posting this week be used against me, made me to feel like I am the trope of the gluttonous fatty eating junk food, sure. Yet here is something I want these photos to push the thoughts of why do thin people get the privilege of eating things they enjoy and we must hide what we like to eat. We must hide what we eat. We must hide ourselves. Only be loud about food when in deprivation and showing that we are trying to loose weight.


Today I wanted to talk about the double standards around judgements of fat people eating vs thin people. I’ve seen a lot on social media of thin people whether it be in eating disorder recovery, dietitian/nutritionist spaces and or “wellness” spaces where thin people pose, eat or promote food on their account. It’s seen as a celebratory focus of their account.


Fat people especially are told we are gluttonous and eat too much right? So therefore the idea of eating for enjoyment seems so intangible to a lot of us. But food is enjoyment, it’s birthdays, memories, favourite recipes, comfort, joy and love. It’s sensory and delicious. I’ve met so many people with tumultuous relationships with food via the work I do online. I’ve met so many people who believe they have to eat a certain way to achieve something. Self worth, acceptance, love or happiness. They believe being fat and eating for enjoyment means that they have failed.


My friendship with Dani is such an important part of my life; it’s a safe space for us both, a place where I know there is always love, respect, acceptance and a shared passion for all things Harry Potter.
I love you so much Dani – thank you for all of this and so much more. / Today’s reflection to comment on below, By having friends of different intersections has it made you more aware of experiences and how do you navigate those conversations in your friendships? ⬇️


Ashlee’s thoughts on our friendship and fat positivity: Having a friend you can really relate to, even with the deep stuff is so important for connection. Even though fat positivity is growing, it’s still quite rare to find another fat person who isn’t rooted in diet culture and body hatred (Not that that’s a bad thing, It’s okay to be where you’re at) but for me as a person, being around people who get it and embody it brings me so many feelings of ease and even allows me to process my grief about releasing absolute control over my body.


Amber’s thoughts on our friendship and fat positivity: I’ve known Dani since high school, I didn’t know back then that she would be someone so important in my life. We’ve been through so many highs and lows together. If there’s one thing I know about Dani is that she’s a fighter and not afraid to speak her opinions. There have been so many times she has told me “I can’t do this anymore” but she has always fought past those tough moments and grown from them.


Y’all know this woman as @bodyposipanda but I just know her as Megan. Megan and I started our friendship 5 years ago when we had no idea where this body positive train would lead us. She has been a guiding light to remind me of my worth through the darkest moments. She has stood by me online and in real life being what it means to be a true ally to larger bodied people


#FATANDFRIENDSHIP 5 DAY SERIES examining how toxic some friendships can be when you’re the “fat one” & how beautiful they can be when your find women who truly support your size & GET fat positivity. You also get the perspective of my friends about my journey to body positivity & their thoughts on my Instagram.